The battle against the industry

All of our lives we have been marketed too. A system designed to rate your value which began SO YOUNG! Even as kids we could rise and fall in value amongst our friends based on what toys were trending, what shoes we wore and even what brand name snacks we had! As we grew older we idolized stars like Jennifer Aniston, Christina Agulara and the Spice Girls. Their unrealistic bodies seemed so effortless. But if you read each of their autobiographies you read herioing stories of eating disorders, drug use and body dysmorphia…. Which we also developed trying to make it seem as effortless as they did! All I saw when I saw these women was that the low rise jeans showing those coveted hip bones and those collar bones to frame a necklace my Brad Pitt would give me. The fact I didn’t look like them, meant I was innately flawed and undeserving of affection.

It was everywhere from the magazines our mothers would pick up in waiting rooms, all telling us the key to our happiness is on the other side of changing our body, face and hair. The easy breezy beautiful covergirl commercials between law and order episodes. Somewhere along the line we inherited the belief that our value came from how we can attract people into our-lives, and the way to do that was physical beauty.

Do not for a moment think that this was an accident or avoidable. We are told to sell our time for money, and give that money in exchange for products to give us value.

Our value should not come from how highly others think of us! Your value does not come from how many romantic partners you can attract. Your worth is not defined by what the scale or mirror says! That is a fleeting target, you see this because it never lasts long enough, you cannot manage how people see you. The beauty industry has sold you this idea that you just need this one next product.. Then you will feel worthy of love, admiration and happiness.